A Rose Cannot Give the Song of a Bluebird
When I was twelve years old, one day at school a group of kids in my class and I took turns standing on a scale in front of each other. This shouldn’t have really been that big of a deal, except that I was already more than a head and shoulders taller than even the tallest boy, and ended up being the heaviest kid in class, by quite a few pounds. I was by no means overweight (at that time), but this event started an insecurity that I struggle with to this day.
When I came home from school that day I was very upset, and remained upset for several days thereafter.
After several days of being down in the dumps and being called fat at school I came home to a letter written by my dad.
Only now do I fully appreciate its beauty and truth. Here is that letter:
Every day, look around you and see the beautiful creation God has made and thank Him for it. He has made everything in it perfect. If some of it does not look perfect to you, please remember that is only because you have not yet learned to see it as God does. He so loves His creation that He gives us even the things that seem bad so that we can learn to see as He does. Remember, God who made kittens also put snakes in the grass. Many people think the kittens are good and the snakes are bad. They haven’t learned. They want to kill all the snakes and save all the kittens. Would God have made a world overrun with kittens? He didn’t.
Also remember that, in making his creation, God thought that you were so necessary to His plans that He sent you to His world. You are like everything else He made—you are a gift. You are as much a gift as the warm sunrise, the gentle rain, and the flowers in spring. People will tell you that there are all sorts of things you SHOULD do. But God shows you each day what you really should do—be quiet and listen to Him. Look at all of His other gifts and watch what they do—they only do one thing. They give themselves—and to give themselves they must first BE themselves. A rose cannot give the song of a bluebird, but it can give the fragrance and beauty of a rose. It is like you. God sent you here to be YOU and to give that to his creation—you are His special you, the only one He will ever make. Don’t ever forget that!
Sometimes life can be frightening—especially when you feel so different. Sometimes you feel like there is no one else like you. You are right! But it is a scary feeling at first—to be different. You may get confused and feel, “I’m different alright—I’m the biggest dweeb in the world!” or “I’m ugly,” “I’m stupid,” or “No one likes me!” Those feelings come and that is very natural. When they do, there are two things to do. First, remember why God made you. Second, talk to someone who loves you. Even if you feel that “No one loves me!” remember that you are the treasure of your mom and dad’s lives. We love you and we always will, so you can always talk to us. We may be old farts but we’ve been through a lot!
Enjoy being you—it will put a big smile on God’s face and on the faces of your mom and dad. Don’t be disappointed when it doesn’t put a smile on everyone’s face. Remember that there are many people who cannot appreciate what God has made—they just haven’t learned yet. They will try to make you be like them, instead of who you are. Just smile and go your own way. The day will come when some of them will come to you to ask you how to go their own way—because you showed them you knew how. This may be one of the gifts God sent you to give.
Don’t forget the lesson God gives us by making both furry kittens and snakes in the grass. He is teaching us to see as He does—although many refuse to learn. If you think a kitten is more wonderful than a snake, consider them each separately. You will see how wonderful they both are and, maybe, begin to see how wonderful it all is. The things you can’t appreciate are the things God put here to teach you. He will always send you the lessons that you need to learn. That is the good news. The bad news is that the lesson will continue until you learn it. When you get stuck on a lesson, talk to the people who love you. They may not know the answer, but they will be able to help.
Enjoy all the wonderful things that God made—and don’t forget that you are one of them!
I love you.
(Guest post by Lauren Wood)